My husband and I have this continuous joke that one day I’m going to retire him and he’ll be a stay-at-home dad while I’m the working mom who rushes out the door every morning with a tea in one hand and briefcase in the other. I don’t know how much of a joke that really is, because one day…honestly, it could happen.
The truth is, I love to work. I like feeling accomplished at more than keeping my son occupied long enough to do the dishes and throw the clothes in the washer. I like to show up shamelessly at work and not always have to tiptoe around the house for fear of waking my baby just so I can do certain things.
That’s not to say that I don’t love the duties that come with motherhood and staying home with my child, because I love him dearly. But I also appreciate the fulfillment of work. And not the work that exhausts me and reduces family time and makes me dread Mondays, but the work that doesn’t feel like work. Work where my passions have room to flourish and I can be a living example of what it means to operate for your purpose.
And I think my kids need that from me. Although I’m only a mom of one at the moment, years later when we’ve expanded our family and our kids are doing their own things in the world, I want them to remember how much their mom loved doing what she did.
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I don’t want them to feel like their mom gave up her career or her dreams to raise them. That’s how I watched my mother grow up as the woman who stopped everything she did and invested herself completely in her children and family until it seemed like she couldn’t. had nothing more to give.
But raising children is a revolutionary act. And the same goes for continuing to pursue your dreams while doing so—if that’s what you want to do.
For so long, I always wondered if she regretted it. I know she made the decision to be a stay-at-home mom (I mean, she had new children) while my father worked endless hours. But I know she had dreams and I always wondered what they were and if she just felt like she didn’t have the space to pursue them after becoming a mother.
I think that’s often the case in society. Everyone thinks a woman gives up on her dreams once she has children. But raising children is a revolutionary act. And the same goes for continuing to pursue your dreams while doing so—if that’s what you want to do.
And I decided that East what I want to do. Because being a working mother is important to my identity. Doing what I love is how I keep grounding myself, which fills my cup and, in turn, gives me more to pour into my family. I don’t feel exhausted or empty when I have something I can call my own. Being a working mother gives me a sense of independence among so many people who depend on me.
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I consider it a blessing to have the ability to do what I love simultaneously: raising my son and working from home.
I like everything. And I can do anything. Because I’m not fair A mother. I am a woman with a dream in mind.
So when people ask me if I’m still working, the answer is yes.
And when they ask me what am I doing? Well, I’m building my career and I’m also building my child’s future.
And for those who want to know how I balance it all? Well, it’s easy when you do what you love.
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I like to work. And I also like spending time with my son and my husband. And I also like meeting career goals. And have clothes folded and put away. I like everything. And I can do anything. Because I’m not fair A mother. I am a woman with a dream in mind.
I don’t want to say that my life stopped because I had children. I had children, then I continued. But this time, with more passion and more dynamism. Because I want my kids to see how much I love what I do so they can chase their dreams and also do what brings them joy.
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